I found the term ‘contract’ very interesting after I did a little sturdy on it. The components of a contract became really fascinating and instructive (agreement, consideration, capacity and legality) when placed in the context of a relationship, I mean a relationship intended to lead to lead to marriage.
I will love you to follow me through series of articles that will be rolled out on this blog that deals with the subject of relationship using the elements of contract as basis.
I found one of the scenes of the film; “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” a film adaption of Steve Harvey’s book with the same title very hilarious. If you have seen the movie, then you will remember the scene when Jeremy pranked Kristen by handing her a little box which seemed like a box of engagement ring on Valentines’ day. Kristen who had been in a relationship with Jeremy for years shouted “yes I will, yes I will” in heightened excitement. She opened the box in anticipation to see a diamond engagement ring only to be disappointed by a lone pair of ear ring. Jeremy feigning innocent of his mischief asked her “You will what?” At this point, Kristen was flushed all over with disappointment and embarrassment haven made a fool of herself before her girlfriends and that of Jeremys’ answered rather wryly “Yes I will wear it” referring to the ear ring.
As hilarious as that scene is and despite the fact that it is just a movie, that scene and the movie in general stopped me on my track. As much as I would not want to admit it, it is what plays out in the world today. A world where the lady wants to get her man committed to the relationship. She wants to know where she stands with him, to get him to propose even if the date is not in view (*hey girl!*) and because our guys are neither blind nor insensitive, they know when the lady become desperate, he is very much aware when she want to get him to ask;
“will you marry me?”
What I found most thought provoking about the movie which of course happens even around us is that Kristen and Jeremy had been living together and acting like couples for years yet he was yet to propose marriage to her.
It has become a common practice to date for dating sake.
The age we live in has accepted such practice as a norm and so people are beginning to fit into the mold. For the fear of being termed non-contemporary, the fear of being perceived as desperate, most ladies linger and hover around a relationship hoping and earnestly anticipating that it ends up in marriage.
It is very disturbing to know that the times that will live in permits two people to be in a relationship for years, I mean for several years and there is no clear definition of what the goal of the relationship is, no destination and sometimes even the bearing cannot be remembered. There are sure lots of dribbling on the pitch, lots of physical, mental, emotional exertion but there is no post for the ball to pass through.
One can’t help but ask so “why the commitment? What’s the goal?”
Are you in a relationship or in assumption? Has he proposed marriage yet or are you expecting? He finally proposed; should you say yes! Oh! You have said yes, is s/he worth your yes (*raised brow*). If yes, at what capacity and what makes your yes valid? I welcome you all on board to this series as we attempt to answer all these questions in subsequent posts. I trust it will be a memorable ride with destiny.
My greatest desire is that these series of articles goes beyond informing and inspiring to impacting you. Keep an open heart and never catch yourself feeling like a victim as you peel off each post.
